Please Don’t!

May I give you a small rant?  It’s late, I don’t have time for a long one anyway.  Please don’t, I repeat, PLEASE DO NOT (and I apologize in advance to any woman I have EVER done this to EVER) call a woman who has just had a baby (and MY WORD, especially don’t visit one) with your primary question(s) being related to how her labor was, how long it took, did she or didn’t she use drugs, and how assisted/unassisted it was or where the location was that she had it – think about the B-A-B-Y!  I KNOW I have been guilty of this before, and it is certainly true (especially with really close, close friends) that some of this questioning is simply curiosity and wanting to know just how your friend is recovering and to share in this beautiful experience with them – I get that.  What I don’t get, is, HELLO, someone just had a BABY!  Pop open the champagne (only a little for you mom!) light up the cigars, and get DOWN ON YOUR KNEES and thank the Living God that another child has been brought into this world!  If you are calling because you can’t wait to push your natural childbirth/homebirth/so-called-best-birth agenda on the person who just had the baby through prying with questions intended only to make the person second guess their birth experience or so you can explain how they could have done this or that better, PLEASE leave the mama alone.  There is a time and a place for all things, and frankly, I thought the whole point of any form of birth experience was this little tiny thing called a b-a-b-y.  A tired, hormonal, extremely fragile individual (i.e. the mom who just had the baby) doesn’t need these calls.  See if she wants some bubble bath, some chocolate, or if you can do a load of her laundry, but please, please, pretty please I beg of you, let the other questions rest!  Ok, with that said, I really DO want phone calls when my baby is born!  LOL!  I’m out…

With Love,

~R